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PrimalCon Oxnard 2014 – Seeing yourself through the eyes of others

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014 – Seeing yourself through the eyes of others
It was another epic PrimalCon experience, and not only because I got to conduct some amazing coaching workshops. For me, PrimalCon is an opportunity to be around some of the latest and greatest in the Paleo/Primal world (speakers and guests fall in this category). It allows me to be immersed for a few days in a world where everyone is focused on being healthier, happier and more balanced. Some of the attendees are veterans on this journey, and others are novices, but for the most part all of them are open-minded, passionate and extremely knowledgeable. I also thoroughly enjoy having someone else prepare healthy meals for me, as well as having the chance to work out in the context of fun play-like activities. Although all the afore mentioned factors are reason enough to attend a PrimalCon, the most compelling and honestly surprising one I have found is the opportunity to make great friendships; the kind of friendships that last a life time, despite distance and minimal contact. So, for anyone considering whether or not it is worth shelling out the money to attend one of these events my short answer is, yes.


There was much fun, merriment and shenanigans that took place at PrimalCon Oxnard 2014… Darryl Edwards and Tommy Brice take a twirl on the dance floor, while Jason Kope, Lars Thrujfell, and Micheal Joe O’Leary amuse yours truly.


I could write more in detail about the events of this past weekend, but Vanessa and Adam Lambert, the Merrymaker Sisters, the Primal Blueprint folk andKim Smith and Dr. Dawn have already done a great job of doing just that.

What I wanted to focus on is the incredible opportunity I was given to take a closer look at myself through the eyes of others. Last weekend I realized, or re-realized, that too often we fixated on whether or not others will perceive us negatively. fcade2_4d216e46394c45c1983f3c24f56fd4eb.jpg_srb_p_324_486_75_22_0.50_1.20_0 We spend too much time worrying that the people in our lives will notice in us the things we fear or dislike most about ourselves. At its extreme this can lead to social phobias in a very few, but for most it simply means they walk around focusing on the negatives rather than the positive attributes they have to impart the world.

I was often humbled at the kind words and positive feedback I received from friends, workshop attendees and staff alike. It was as if they only paid attention to the best in me. I can honestly say that the compliments that were given were accurate and truthful, but they are rarely how I first think of myself, or what I assume others initially see. It occurred to me that when I look at others, I too am often much quicker to notice the good than the bad, and when in fact the bad is witnessed it is balanced out with what I know to be positive and worthwhile about another being.

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014

On the longest day of all, my last workshop was conducted in the hot tub – this guaranteed a full house.

I want to thank everyone who took the time to participate and trust me during the workshops. I wish to thank my closer friends… you know who you are, but also the staff of the Primal Blueprint, who when presented with a woman who asserted her value at their event, considered me and gave me a chance to provide a much needed psychological and cognitive framework to the changes that their guests are trying to make. I look forward to future collaboration with Mark Sisson and his crew, and to being given the opportunity to see myself and others in the brightest of lights.

Thanks to the participation and feedback of those 50+ goal directed primal peeps who attended my session at PrimalCon the Change of Heart workshop is ready to roll out and improve lives come January 2015.  If you would like to get some more personalized help with the habits you are struggling to change before then, please contact me, there is a 20% discount on the first month of coaching for anyone who mentions PrimalConOx2014 good until the end of October 2014.

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014

Strongman Brian Tarbor showing us how it is done.

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014
Chris and Tina were the organizing force behind this year’s Primal Con.

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014Guess whose team won the survivor challenge?

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014

Running 101 with Brad Kearns

PrimalCon Oxnard 2014
PrimalCon Oxnard 2014

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Hi! I'm Dr. Alessandra Wall

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